Change is unsettling. Our relationships sour or our marriages are empty and we sense that deeper issues lurk beneath the surface. Our daily living is not wonderful enough to encompass the fullness of our identity, and we intuit that we’re so much more than we allow. When these life tremors occur, uneasiness permeates our being.
If we refuse to change, our problems do not go away. They instead get worse—even catastrophic. Perhaps our drinking or other addictions that once made life possible are now life-threatening. Perhaps our friendships or other intimate relationships seem empty and echo the despair of our childhood. Our love aches for expression and cannot find a home. Perhaps depression or other emotional problems set in as we deny the sad reality of our abandoned child within and the neglect we endured long ago. We feel chronically unworthy of life’s blessings and nurturance.
These painful symptoms all indicate a recovery aching to break free from the frozen constraints of group despair. We hit a wall. A terrifying reality confronts us. We must change—or we’ll die.
